Unnecessary Time Limits

Time is a funny thing isn’t it? We are always working on time, against time, to time, deadlines…it’s pretty much a constant in everyone’s life. This is a pretty personal piece on how I have been putting really, really stupid deadlines and working to a time limit that I wasn’t really aware of. I’ve been putting a lot of pressure on myself lately and I think I’ve figured out why, how and I need to stop.

So I work from home and I’m trying to build an income for my family so that I can provide more and so that we can do more. This has lead to me making a few commitments that I actually shouldn’t have done and now feel obligated to keep. Don’t get me wrong, I am happy about them and I am excited about them but honestly I really can’t afford it and I hate having to admit that. Money is such a vicious thing isn’t it? I know people often say that money doesn’t buy happiness but not having any really does cause misery. We do have enough, to get buy, to live, we make sacrifices and we get things we want and need but only just. This is increasing every month but it’s still tough. However I know that the more work I do, the more I put in, then the more I will get out of it.

Blogging has been amazing the last few months for me. I have gained some amazing opportunities and I am starting to get more exciting things to blog about and do with my family which is fantastic. I am so grateful that we are able to do the things we want for a fraction of the cost. The exchange of writing for an event, product or service is easy for me and I really enjoy it. However, it does get a bit overwhelming and I really need to organise myself better rather than procrastinate and binge watch Pretty Little Liars on Netflix. What annoys me is whilst I’m catching up with TV shows I can be organising my week and my blog. I can multitask. I have the freedom and the flexibility to multitask but sometimes I just don’t.

The biggest time scale I’ve been putting on myself really unnecessary is having more children. I had my first daughter when I was 21 and she will be six in September. I don’t feel like motherhood is my calling or anything but I would like a bigger family, especially now I’m in a much happier, healthier relationship than I was when I had Mini Kat. Adam and I have been together for four years now, we’ve talked about it together and we both want it. However we also both want to move and get married. All of these things cost money and honestly, I feel like I’m getting too old to have kids. I know, I know, it’s really silly and I have lots of fantastic friends who have had children and have lovely families and the age gap between me and them is a lot bigger. Really I should think it’s okay, I’m only twenty-seven, I have plenty of years left to have more children. I also know that when Adam and I decide the time is right for us, we will probably have them in a much closer age gap than between Mini Kat and her brother or sister.

What I need is a plan. A really good 12 month plan that will tell me exactly what I need to do to earn enough money to be able to move. Once we have the funds and ability to move, then I know we can start thinking about having a bigger family. I know this won’t exactly take ten years of my life and really I know we will probably have more children sooner than I think but what I need to do is stop putting a timeline on myself and just relax.

Enjoy living. Celebrate the family I have. Blog and make money. I still have plenty of time.

Pink Pear Bear




  1. RachelSwirl says:

    So glad that you are enjoying blogging and it is great that you are getting some good opportunities.

  2. Blogging is so addictive, isn’t it? People think it’s just fun. But if you really want to commit to it, it’s a lot of work. Good luck with yours. It looks great! #KCACOLS

    1. Completely agree! I do love it, and it used to be just for fun, but now it’s a lot more ‘real’ and I love that it’s something I get to do daily! 🙂

  3. Blogging is so much fun, but more than a little addictive! Haha – I love blogging it’s great to have something to focus on that I enjoy doing. #KCACOLS

  4. I never realised how much time and effort goes into blogging. I spend so much time on my blog but I love it. I really do need to get more organised too x #bigpinklink

    1. So true! I enjoy it a lot though and yes organisation is key haha x

  5. Time is so big and scary sometimes isn’t it? I’m guilty of trying to do too much, and then panicking and trying to bury my head in the sand. I always feel better when I tackle it head on though. Make the phone calls, return the emails and write copious lists! Thanks for joining us at the #bigpinklink

    1. Completely get this! That’s exactly how I feel, when I have a ticked off to do list I feel so much better!

  6. Aww, its horrible to feel under pressure, especially self imposed. I do this all the time too! On the children front you have loads of time! You just do what feels right for you. I know people with very large age gaps and it works brilliantly for their family and the older sibling can really be involved and enjoy having a baby around. My brother and sister are 16 years apart and now they are adults they are good friends. #MMBC

    1. Thanks for commenting. I love that idea and I know my daughter will be an amazing big sister and a real help with a new baby. I feel I have a better relationship with my youngest sister, there’s 9 years between us and we didn’t fight as much as me and the middle one!

  7. Emma says:

    I echo your thoughts tbh. im a bit older than you…35 and I have one son who is 3. im thinking about another at the mo but in some ways im not ready. but then I feel pressured re the age gap and also my age. time is a funny thing for sure. its hard not to over think these things too. enjoy your younger years and try not to spend all that time worrying and what iffing x#KCACOLS

    1. Thanks Emma, I really appreciate that. I agree completely, it’s tough but you’re so right there’s no point worrying too much about it all! x

  8. Savannah says:

    I am so happy to hear that you are enjoying blogging. Many opportunities have opened for me recently, and while it can be overwhelming, it really does feel good to be able to bring in some money. While I don’t think constantly having a timeline is good, I do think there are benefits to a plan. We also want to move and I would love a year-plan for my blogging-yet, who has the time to organize something like that?!
    My son was born just last year, and I’m only 23, so more children hasn’t even really been on my mind lately. But, it’s so funny how we, as women, are pushed about our “biological clock.” Ugh! Thanks for sharing <3 #KCACOLS

    1. That’s it isn’t it this silly biological clock! A plan is good I think, but having too much can be so overwhelming can’t it?! X

  9. Beautiful and honest post, and I couldn’t agree more. Celebrate the family I have is the best thing I could do. Having plans is great but sometimes, we just need to stop and be happy in the present. 🙂 #TwinklyTuesday

    1. Thank you for stopping by 🙂 I agree, being happy makes a world of difference to the day to day!

  10. I love this – I agree that we sometimes put unecessary time limits on ourselves and we should just relax and enjoy! I do the same thing sometimes with various elements of my life, so you’re not alone there. #bigpinklink

    1. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in things like this, life can be tough! x

  11. I had a plan after having my first son at 19. I was going to go to Uni, get an amazing job & build a career. I didn’t want anymore kids I wanted to focus on raising my son as a single mum and doing the best I could. I did everything I wanted including getting married to an amazing man. After hitting 30 I totally changed my plan! I had another child, left my job to blog full time and am living the life I never once even considered! Good luck with the blog xx #TwinklyTuesday

    1. Thank you for stopping by! It’s funny how plans can completely change!

  12. Dr Mummykins says:

    Oh I know this feeling so well. I honestly wish my day had another 6 hours in it. 30 hour days would suit me just fine… Great post, got me thinking 🙂 #KCACOLS

  13. I love blogging and also work from home, so I can relate to trying to get into some kind of routine amongst the chaos.
    I live by my to do lists, I feel more productive when I can tick things off!
    And as for the kiddies, I’m sure you will have another when the time is right for you 🙂

    Thanks so much for joining in with #MMBC Hope to see you next week xx

  14. When you get the answer could you share it with me?! I work from home, blog, look after my kids while the hub works 55 hour weeks. I wish I was more organised and done nights I get nothing done coz the kids are awake so much! I think trying to find s work balance is hard thigh even if you work from home #KCACOLS

  15. Laura says:

    I completely agree on this. I love blogging so much but finding the time is so difficult sometimes. Remember to cut yourself some slack though – a bit of Netflix and relaxing is always needed! xx #bigpinklink

  16. I know what you mean about money, it just permeates everything. A constant nagging worry. 🙁 It’s fine to relax sometimes though – otherwise you just get burnout and that’s no good for anyone. x #KCACOLS

  17. Teammomlife says:

    I love this advice! It is so easy to get caught up with deadlines that you don’t enjoy yourself at all. That a big part of why I’m trying to be relaxed with my blog. Because after all I chose to do it for fun not to feel like I have a second job. Really enjoyed this! #KCACOLS

  18. Geraldine says:

    I can understand how you feel and yes money puts so much pressure on us. I suppose the best thing you can do is focus on what is the right order to do things. They always say that there is never the right time to have kids so think about your priorities and what you both want in your life. Envisage them and make them happen. We were waiting to start our family until we settled a car crash claim and moved house. In the end we decided to take the plunge and had her before anything was settled and we still lived in our old house. Now we’ve moved and are planning no . Do what is right for you personally and ofcourse financially #KCACOLS

  19. There’s no time like the present! Personally, I believe you never really feel 100% ready for a baby there’s always something that needs to be done but on the other hand it’s obviously very wise to plan ahead! Lol Glad your blogging is going well sounds fab. #KCACOLS

    1. I know what you mean but then we really don’t even have the space to fit a cot in our room, well, we would if we got rid of the wardrobe haha! 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!

  20. I know what you mean about procrastinating! Sometimes I feel I do that a lot wasting time in social media when I should be organising my week. It is crazy! But sometimes we need those times too. I can’t be 24/7 thinking in the blog. I feel very tired lately and I’m really wishing for a break. Even better will be a beach holiday, 😉 You are still young so you can definitely have another baby. I had my first baby when I was 33 and my second one when I was 37 so you have plenty of time! I would have had more but I’m now feeling that I need to start thinking about us enjoying as a family. We are not getting any younger now so having another one will be a no. Well done with your blogging! It is always great tp be able to bring your family along to a nice eventor attraction thanks to your blog. Good luck with all lovely! Thanks so much for sharing this at #KCACOLS. I’m looking forward to co-hosting with you this week! 🙂 x

  21. Totally get the procrastinating thing! I am a terror for that (it’s often through tiredness!). Great that you are getting more opportunities though…it’s sometimes hard to turn them down and then suddenly we feel overwhelmed! Don’t worry about the children thing – it’ll happen when you are ready. I was 29 when I had Zach and am just about to have my second at almost 34!
    Thanks for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

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