Weddings can be enormously stressful. Dozens of people have to pitch in to make sure that the big day goes off without a hitch, including caterers, bridesmaids, best men, dressmakers and photo-booth supervisors.
Guests take a bit of a passive role in things, but they can still do their part to help the day go smoothly.
When a couple writes ‘RSVP’ on the bottom of their invitation, you should take it as an instruction to get back to them as soon as possible. If there’s a deadline, it’ll be an absolute deadline, which you don’t want to get near. If you’re not coming, then you need to let them know. If you are coming, then the same applies. Don’t assume that the bride and groom will know what your intentions are, because they are spinning lots of plates, and probably don’t have the time to think about what you’re doing.
Bring an Appropriate Gift
How much should you spend on a wedding gift? The answer will depend on your budget, and the tastes of the bride and groom. If they’re especially modern, they might have a list of items that they need for around the house; pick something from that and gift it. They might not even want presents, but a contribution to their honeymoon fund (or a favoured charitable cause).
Whether or not you include a gift, you’ll want to be sure that you’ve picked out a suitable (and distinctive) wedding card to mark the occasion.
Don’t Wear White
If you don’t want to ruffle feathers, then you’ll want to avoid wearing white. This will cause you to clash with the bride, and can easily be interpreted as an insult. Brides wear white largely because Queen Victoria started the trend in 1840, but this doesn’t stop it being near-enough sacrosanct.
Don’t get Messy
Most weddings in the UK are going to include a healthy flow of alcohol. You want to have a good time, but you don’t want to go so far that you become the centre of attention. The happy couple are only going to get one wedding day to look back on; they don’t want to remember it as the time that you embarrassed yourself.
Make Sure You Get There on Time
Punctuality is everything when it comes to wedding planning. All of the pieces have to be in place on schedule, as there may be multiple ceremonies on the same day. What’s more, lateness might be interpreted as an insult.
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