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Unfortunately, one of the sad realities of life is that the people we love and adore cannot be with us on this journey forever. The time will come where we will lose friends and family members, and this can be a very sad thing to experience, and it never becomes easier. However, that doesn’t mean this should be something that is necessarily horrific to deal with. Respectfully wearing black at a funeral, the measures we can go to in trying to stay alive and healthy and seeing our relatives in a vulnerable position can make us believe that his is a truly sad affair through and through.
And yet, staying positive, no matter how hard it can be, can help you move forward a little more carefully and give yourself time to grieve. After all, how would your relative have wished you to experience this? That you would only feel terrible about this? Or that you would remember them, and celebrate what was great about their life and the love you shared? You will feel both, but making time for the latter can be a tremendously healthy exercise.
So, let us see what that might mean ahead of time:
Celebrate Their Life
It’s very easy to overly consider the loss you have just experienced. How could you be expected to do anything different? However, that must also be measured with remembrance, remembrance of the good times you shared, the love you had for one another, and the memories you have made. Their passing is infinitesimally small compared to the life you shared together, even in passing from time to time. After all, the only reason you can grieve for them is because of positivity you once shared together on this crazy temporary journey we all call life. When you consider this, it might not completely help, but it can at least temper the pain you feel and put things in the right perspective. Grief is not healthy without love and appreciation behind it.
Respect Their Wishes
Respecting the wishes of the departed can be a great means of helping you feel connected to that person. Perhaps they expressed that they wished you would be a little calmer, because work stress was harming you and they could see it. To respect their memory, you may decide to make a lifestyle change, or use a lesson they taught you, or reach out to the family they wished you connected with more. It can be a nice way to help their memory live on, and also show them how much they did and still do mean to you.
Commemorate Them Carefully
Commemorating them carefully is simply being respectful. Finding the best headstones to help mark their burial, or perhaps finding a place they loved to spread their ashes can be a cathartic experience for you. There’s a sense of closure here, because finally being able to say goodbye is at least something you may find helps. It is from here you can start healing, and ultimately moving on as they would wish for you.
With this advice, you’re sure to remain positive despite a relative’s passing.