Author: Kat Candyfloss

  • Everless Book Review 5/52

    The best thing, for me, about Everless, is that it didn’t focus on a romance. Honestly, that’s usually what draws me into YA Fantasy books, it’s that kind of first all encompassing love and passion and the fight of people being together and whilst I think a bit of love and passion might evolve through the story it’s very clear from the get go that it’s not the focus.

    I love the magical element in Everless which was so full of twists and turns that I just didn’t really see coming at all. It’s a great read, quite different from some of the other YA books out there and really emotive driven. The main protagonist in the story, Jules, is very driven and has such a strong moral and ethical code when it comes to helping others and putting other people first which is nice to read in a character and makes her really likeable. She’s also very curious and seems to be drawn to a little bit of danger.

    Everless does throw up a bit of self identity and self discovery which is really what being 17 is all about. I always found 17 an odd age between being a teenager and, technically, a young adult with all my legal rights just out of my grasp. I think that’s what makes it really interesting and different actually because it just steps away from that focus on relationships and steps more into that inner battle of stepping out of being a child and coming into being an adult. It’s got the balance down throughout the narrative really, really well.

    I was a little skeptical at first because the blurb did describe Everless as a book I wouldn’t usually pick up to read but I’m very glad I did and I would recommend anyone that is drawn into fantasy fiction to give this one a read. I’ve just moved onto the sequel which came out in January and so far, so good – it’s a great follow on that I can’t wait to share.

    One of my goals for 2020 is to read 52 books or around one a week. Some might be new, some are ones I’ve had for a while or been meaning to read, some I haven’t quite finished yet and some will be recommendations from others. You can see all the books I’ve read so far on my Good Reads 2020 Reading Challenge.

  • Paying Off Debt in 2019 #AD

    My word of 2019 is More and one of the key focuses on this for me is to pay off more debt. It’s something I’ve just done the bare minimum about for a long time now and quite frankly I’m getting sick of seeing small regular amounts go out and hardly make a dent. This year I am putting the majority of my money into clearing my debt so that I can have a much cleaner and stable financial future. What’s really frustrating is most of this debt is from my early twenties and I’m now 30 so it’s time I firmly left the past behind and just got rid of the debt I’ve let build up.

    This really came about last summer when one of the debt collection agencies I’d been consistently paying £10 a month to offered me a settlement plan and they actually offered me a chance to pay it over six months in equal instalments raising it to about £32 a month. I decided to go for it as it would more than half the time I’d be paying it off and I knew it would make a huge difference. I was told that if I defaulted on one payment the settlement would be revoked and the full balance would be due again. I actually managed to clear it in November rather than January when I had a little bit of spare cash and decided it was better spent clearing the debt than making the last two month payments.

    How Do You Control Your Debt?

    Firstly it’s important to pay what you can afford, do not get into more trouble or sacrifice your basic needs when it comes to controlling debt. Speak financial experts or charities, open up conversations with any debt collection agencies and be completely honest about financial hardship. That being said if your disposable income increases then it is absolutely worth paying more debt to make your financial future healthier and actually it’s a real burden lifted when you close a debt account.

    I phoned around and emailed companies, registered for online management accounts and wrote down what I owed to who and how much. I worked out how long it would take for me to clear the debt with the current payments I was making. Most of them I was looking at five years or more just paying £5 a month despite almost all of those debts being under £1,000 each. I decided to try and work out how much I would have to pay to get my debt firmly under control within 24 months, the majority being cleared within 12 months.

    In November 2018 I worked out I had the following debts:
    Debt 1 owing £570
    Debt 2 owing £200
    Debt 3 owing £160
    Debt 4 owing £280
    Debt 5 owing £350
    Debt 6 owing £1750
    Debt 7 Owing £750
    I also had two credit cards which were close to being maxed out and almost owing the full balance
    Credit Card 1 at £290/£300
    Credit Card 2 at £640/£700

    That’s quite a lot of debt to lay on the table but show you the reality of what life is like with debt. Most of these I was paying around £5 or £10 a month and it just wasn’t really making much of a dent. I then went through our income and expenses and had enough disposable income to clear debt 3 in full on my debit card, which I did. I then called up debt 2 and asked to increase my monthly payments to £50 a month, clearing it in four months. On 6th March 2019 I will make my last £50 payment for a debt I borrowed almost five years ago when I was on income support and borrowed a loan to help with moving costs when I was coming close to leaving hostel accommodation and moving into a council flat.

    Then came the challenging tasks of dealing with debts 1, 4, 5 & 7 which were separate accounts with the same debt collection agency. I am able to manage these accounts online and have since increased my monthly payments to around £40 a month on each. It’s a big hit but I’ve set it up in a way I know I can meet the payments. It means one will be cleared in June, one in September and the other two I’ve set to clear within 12 months. My plan, however, is when each one clears I increase the payments on the others so that it actually takes less than the 24 months I have given myself to get out of debt.

    The biggest debt is the hardest one to deal with and for the time being I’ve increased the payment from £10 a month to £50 but ideally I would like to try and increase this to around £130 a month when I’ve cleared the other debts. This is the most difficult debt collection agency to deal with as the agents on the other end of the phone are rude, difficult to speak to, unsympathetic and threatening. It’s also for past water rates which is both mine and Adam’s responsibility so he is helping me with this one. For the rest though, I’m doing it myself.

    I’ve managed to arrange my repayments myself, but if you feel overwhelmed by large debts and you’re struggling to manage them, companies like Creditfix can help too.

    Give Yourself A Financial Check Up

    It’s really important to keep an eye on your finances and give yourself a financial check up from time to time. I’ve since cancelled a few subscriptions that I just wasn’t really using or made discount deals with providers to try and give myself a bit of a boost. I’ve been keeping a budget diary to see where we are overspending which was really shocking for January and has opened my eyes to just how careless we have been with disposable income.

    Both Adam and I have things we really want such as Adam learning to drive, buying a car, affording insurance, tax and fuel. I want to be debt free and in control of my money and save for a holiday to Disneyworld. We are only going to get the things we really want in our lives if we stop overspending on silly things that actually don’t really give us much joy and have resulted in a lot of ‘stuff’ that we don’t really need.

    Dealing With Credit Cards

    Credit Cards are being told to help get customers out of persistent debt on their balance. That’s where you are only making the minimum payment but that only really covers the interest so the actual balance of the card isn’t really coming down. You will be given a recommended extra payment each month to help you get out of persistent debt and actually start clearing your credit card balance. Customers do have control and as long as you’re making the minimum payment because that’s all you can afford then you can opt out of increased payments.

    However, if you can afford the extra payment it will help that balance come down much quicker which will in turn help your credit file. You can also set your own amount you want to pay back each month and make extra payments if you find yourself with extra disposable income. I have decided to set up direct debits for above the minimum payment and recommended payment and increased my lower balance card to £25 a month which is around £10 more than the amount asked for to help with persistent debt. I have increased the larger of the two to £40 a month which is more than double the minimum amount so that works out well for me and it’s nice to see the actual balance coming down.

    I’m not really thinking about getting rid of credit cards however I am getting in serious control of how and when we use them. I want to get them all down to 0 balance and then spend a small amount on each every month and pay back in full the following month. This way we have access to emergency funds and in theory over the years, will help show we are good lenders because we borrow and pay back quickly.

    Getting Started with Savings

    I am terrible when it comes to savings and saving for the future but I made a few changes last year and at the start of the year to combat this. The first thing I did was open up a pot for a private pension. At the moment I’m only putting £5 a month in the account which is a very small about but works out at around 5% of my average earnings. My plan is to increase this amount when I’m debt free to a more substantial figure and on a yearly basis my minimum amount will increase automatically by 10%. That means in January the payments went to £5.50 which at the moment is still very affordable and at least it is something.

    I’ve also found on my online banking a savings goal calculator which I’ve attached to my savings account. My plan is to save an amount each week until week 45 where, if I do it right, I should have £1,000 which I plan to use on Christmas. Week one started with £1, week 2 was £2 and so on. It works out well as I pay off more debt I will be able to commit to the increase in weekly savings and so the final payment of £45 on week 45 should bring my total to just over £1,000. Not only will I have cleared around 50% of my total debt and got my credit card balances to decrease but I’ll also have actual savings for a debt free Christmas. I’m also doing automatic savings through Plum which calculate small, regular amounts around your bills and income which I can withdraw at any time.

  • The Wicked King Book Review 4/52

    The Wicked King by Holly Black is the second book in the Folk of The Air series and is the surprising and enjoyable sequel to The Cruel Prince. It came out in January 2019 in Hardback and Audiobook and I’ve just finished it.

    The Wicked King follows around four months after the end of The Cruel Prince and is told from the perspective of mortal girl Jude who has been brought up in the land of Faerie by Madoc, the Grand General, who murdered her parents. That in itself is an interesting and complex relationship which is something that really draws me into the story. Without giving too much away Jude is now in a position of power which she is quite desperately clinging too facing all sorts of humiliation and anger from the Folk and her family. The story very much feels like a power struggle throughout with a lot of tension, murder, betrayal and heated passion thrown in for good mix.

    Despite being a fantasy the book is very political which I really enjoyed. It was interesting to see a mortal power struggle in a faerie land. I find most of the characters and their relationships with each other really interesting. Instead of being your typical young adult fantasy romance style book the relationships are full of more betrayal and displeasure at each other. The Wicked King challenges a lot of moral issues too, and instead of painting faeries in a cute or tricky way the focus is more on the mischievous.

    What really surprised me about The Wicked King was the ending as I completely did not see that coming at all. It was a complete throw which actually, for once, left me wanting to know what happens next which of course is something I will have to wait to find out. I really enjoyed the ending even though those type of cliffhangers really frustrate me but this actually lead me to wanting to know more about the build up from the others characters point of view, why it happened and what will happen next.

    The Wicked King is available to buy on Amazon. Here is the affiliate link for the book:

    One of my goals for 2020 is to read 52 books or around one a week. Some might be new, some are ones I’ve had for a while or been meaning to read, some I haven’t quite finished yet and some will be recommendations from others. You can see all the books I’ve read so far on my Good Reads 2020 Reading Challenge.

  • I’m Too Fat To Be Body Positive

    I’m Too Fat To Be Body Positive

    On one hand I see slimmer women from magazines, airbrushed and photoshopped giving me an unrealistic view of beauty and health and on the other I see women the same size as me confident and content with their bodies. I can’t help but feel what is wrong with me. I am not body confident, the way I look disgusts me.

    It’s totally my fault of course because I own my body and I have made the decisions that make it the way it is right now. I ate the food, I moved less, I had children and in those years I’ve created a mindset that has a unhealthy view of food. I restrict then binge, yo-yo diet and workout but then I get complacent, or bored, or lose willpower or feel pressured and I stop. My attitude towards food is unhealthy and my attitude towards exercise is it’s painful and I feel humiliated doing it.

    But I see so many women, some the same size, some larger than me loving themselves and I don’t understand what there is to love. I don’t love anything about my body, I don’t love anything about the way I look. I don’t have respect or pride for my scars and stretchmarks. All I see is fatty flesh, shoulders too big for my small head, horrible hair that never looks right however it’s cut, makeup that I can’t ever “do” proplerly so it always looks cakey no matter my budget. I see tiny hands with bitten nails, hard skin, soft pudgy bits that don’t sit right in any clothes. I feel chub rub, boob sweat and all the aches and pains that come with carrying excess fat around my body. Do these body positive, body confident women not feel these things either? Is there something wrong with me that only I suffer with these problems of being so overweight?

    Do they not find it hard getting in and out of the bath? Do they not have to put the shampoo and conditioner in reach before getting in because the tyres around their middle prevent them actually reaching forward enough? Do they not sweat so much it makes them embaressed to go outside? Do they not look at themselves and the sag and excess skin and sretch marks and wish at times they could just unzip it at the back and step out of this fat suit? If they don’t feel like this then why do I feel like this if I am “one of them”

    I do not want to be so slim and so ripped. I don’t need loads of muscles on show or eight abs. I don’t care about having a bit of a mum pouch from my two c-sections. I just want to wear a pair of jeans from a supermarket rather than expensive shops dedicated to plus sizes. I want to buy a bra that costs £6 instead of £36. I want to have a healthy respect for my body and a positive relationship with food.

    I do not want to spend the next thirty years of my life stepping on and off the sad step until I reach my target weight and then obsessing over maintaining that weight for years to come. I do not want to have to restrict myself from food groups forever. I just want to be able to understand when I’m full and to have enough. I don’t want to have to overeat to the point of discomfort and I want to continue actually really enjoying food because it tastes so good. I don’t want to be stuck on a traffic light system focusing in on labels for the rest of my life in case something is too fatty or too high in sugar.

    I want to learn to trust myself to make healthy choices and to enjoy movement. I want to be a good role model to my kids and show them that being healthy is not about being thin but it is about mental relationships. I do not want my children to live a live of obsession over their weight but how can I prevent that when the way I look disgusts me and drives me own obsession with diet culture.

    I feel pressured, overwhelmed and disgusted at myself and I do not know where to start. I am too fat to be body positive and I am too fat to be healthy.

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  • My Fairy Garden: Fairy Kitchen Garden Review #AD

    My Fairy Garden: Fairy Kitchen Garden Review #AD

    My Fairy Garden: Fairy Kitchen Garden was sent to us in exchange for this blog post. All opinions remain my own. This post may contain advertisement and affiliate links.

    I thought the Fairy Kitchen Garden would be something my mum would enjoy doing with Evie as she loves gardening and Evie is always picking her raspberries and “helping” her in the summer. My mum looks after Evie for a couple of hours every other Friday before she goes to her dads so it was a good chance for them to do something together.

    Fairy Kitchen Garden comes with a planter, Fairy, Fairy House and some pea shoots for planting. You just need to provide your own soil to create a lovely little Fairy Garden. When the pea shoots have grown through you can snip them off and eat them so I also thought it would be a great chance for Evie to learn a bit about growing food too.

    The Fairy Kitchen Garden is lovely and currently has pride of place in my mums Kitchen. Evie and her spent some time putting it together and then planting the seeds. The seeds need to be soaked in water between 6 and 24 hours before planting so I would recommend taking them out and popping in water the night before you want to make the Fairy Kitchen Garden.

    It’s quite simple to put the Fairy Kitchen Garden together and really does look very cute. It’s so quick and simple and a great activity to do with kids as it’s something that is quick to do at first but takes a bit of time to see something grow so it’s nice to see Evie want to help look after something, and hopefully, be proud of what she’s grown.

    We have just started seeing some of the first shoots come through which has really excited Evie!

    My Fairy Garden: Fairy Kitchen Garden is from Interplay and is available to buy on Amazon.