Author: Kat Candyfloss

  • Stylish Prints & Frames with Desenio

    Desenio specialise in posters, prints and picture frames for every room in the home. If you’re looking for ways to add extra style and colour to your home then Desenio is a perfect place to start. I managed to find a great range of gorgeous prints for the whole family and for each room in our flat. It’s added a little bit of colour and just transformed our walls.

    Desenio prints can be hung up, stuck up with washi tape, placed in frames and styled exactly the way you want them to be. There is a huge range of gorgeous prints and frames to fit so that you can get exactly the right image for your home. I choose to style mine as creatively as possible with Washi tape as I live in renter accocomoration and currently I can’t hang things up on the wall. I wanted to get these up before I got too far along in my pregnancy and help just create a more homely environment.

    Evie really wanted to select a poster for her room and choose this lovely Baby Giraffe picture which she proudly helped me to tape up on her wall. The quality of the paper is excellent and despite being rolled up when delivered there are no creases in the paper. The poster has a matte effect finish and is something that Evie looks on really fondly because giraffes are her favourite animal.

    desenio giraffe poster
    Baby Giraffe

    I’ve wanted some form of artwork in the kitchen for quite a long time now and as Adam and I are both coffee lovers the coffee menu was really apt. I think it looks really stylish in the lovely white frame and just adds a bit more to our kitchen. It’s a great size for this kind of art work too and the size is ideal for the kitchen.

    Coffee Menu

    I wanted to give our bathroom a bit more of a tropical theme and looked for posters that made me think of far away places. First though we really need to re paint the bathroom walls and wait for them to try before adding our prints up. I love the palm leaf print in particular and I think these choices are really helping me to create a more spa like feel in our bathroom. We’ve got quite a big bathroom fortunately so getting something up on the walls to make them look just a little better was key for me.

    Unwind, Palm Leaves Pattern and Ficus Exposure

    Our bedroom is purple and I absolutely love owls so I couldn’t resist putting up this super cute owl print! Again I’ve used washi tape and styled the print on our wardrobe door because it was such a stark white in the room. Alongside my make up I’ve added this quote in this frame because I do quite like an inspirational quote from time to time.

    Little Owl

    Desenio really do have so many lovely prints that you can use all around the home with big posters to quotes and sayings. This can make it really personal to the family home and really help theme a room If thats what you’re looking to do. I loved looking through the inspiration section on the website to get a feel for the types of prints available and found this really helped me when making my choices.

    I quite love quotes and as I’m planning a home birth I wanted a few quotes in the living room as well as some pictures that made me feel calm. The beach and the sea really bring me to a happy mental place and being able to look up at these on my living room wall make me feel happy as they’re the kind of places I would love to visit. Again this have been put up with washi tape. I would have liked to create a nice frame around the images with the tape but actually I’m quite happy with them like this!

    Posters are Beach Umbrella, Standards High and Colourful Sky

    I also work from home so I like to a quote to make me smile on my desk. I’ve decided to add this one into a frame to place on my desk, right next to my cup of coffee because that is the vibe I need on a Monday morning to get back into the swing of things!

    May Your Coffee Be Strong Poster
    Quote Posters

    If you like what I’ve pictured above you can take advantage of Desenio are offering 25% off posters from their website using the code “candyflossdreams” from 7th until 9th August. Please note this discount code is not valid on frames or collaboration/handpicked posters. The code “candyflossdreams” gives 25% off posters* on all of our sites between August 7th and 9th. 
    *Except for frames and  handpicked-/collaboration posters.

     

    Do you have any posters or prints in your home? How have you styled them?

    Disclaimer: this post is in collaboration with Desenio and I received the prints pictured in exchange for this feature. All opinions remain my own.

  • 6 Years On From Hostel Living

    Hostel living was a part of my reality for ten months in 2012/13. Sharing a small bedroom with my then two year old daughter, sharing a kitchen, a bathroom with six other families, having a night time curfew and really just trying to get some normality back into my life after leaving my difficult relationship and becoming a single parent. Life wasn’t easy, but it was getting better. Six years on my life is vastly different and so much happier. It’s hard to think that I used to live in a crisis centre but we pass it often when out and about as a reminder of how far I’ve come. It’s hard to know what to expect when you’re living in a hostel but also hard to imagine how much better life can get in the future. I’ll apologise now for the photo quality, I didn’t really have the luxury of a decent camera when I was homeless!

    hostel living

    Hostel Living in Hampshire

    I remember turning up at the council offices with my daughter and a couple of bags to declare myself homeless after leaving a toxic relationship and returning to my home town in Hampshire. I didn’t know there was a chance of me not being allocated a safe place to live close to friends and family and I certainly didn’t know what the next year of my life would be like. It was a complete and utter rollercoaster.

    I started my hostel living journey on 2nd August and was brought into a crisis centre for women and children. I was given a small room with two beds and a cot, a wardrobe and bedside cabinet. There was a small tv on a three piece chest of draws. I then bundled my entire life into that room. My two year old daughter and pushchair, my bag of clothes and a few homely possessions I was able to bring with me. I was then showed where the bathroom and shower room were, given one cupboard in the kitchen, a shelf in the fridge and a drawer in the freezer. That was our allocation. I was then given a food box because at that point the only money I was receiving was £82 child benefit every four weeks.

    Claiming Benefits is a big part of Hostel Living

    The hostel staff helped me call through to tax credits, income support and make a housing benefit claim although the benefit I would receive wasn’t actually enough to pay for my room in the crisis centre. I then had to pay an extra £32 a week in rent from the minimal amount of benefits I was receiving to support my daughter. If I had gone to work I would have had to pay the entire rent and somehow afford childcare costs of well over £700 a month. There was no chance I was going to get a job paying at least £1400 a month with my lack of experience from being a stay at home parent for two years and emotionally I really wasn’t ready to return to the work place after so much difficulties I had been experiencing.

    My daughter turned two a month after we moved in and I remember only just being able to afford to get her birthday presents and a card from Poundland. I made her a small cake. I didn’t actually get to see her until after 3pm that day because she was with her dad and at that point we were having a lot of difficulties establishing a good childcare plan for her. My ex wanted to have her in his care from alternative Friday evenings until Tuesdays and often wouldn’t bring her home until passed 9pm. I would then have to walk back with her late at night as they were often late. It was really taking a toll on me but the absolute worst time was when, after six weeks, they took her to Spain for a week. I didn’t see her for 12 days because they didn’t bring her back until the following Tuesday despite being back in the country for four days. It was the longest 12 days of my life and hostel living was becoming very, very bleak. It was during those 12 days I actually sought legal aid, refusing mediation and going straight for a residency order with a proper childcare   access plan that would be consistent through school.

    Six years on neither of us have deviated from that plan except maybe an extra day or early drop of here and there. She still goes alternative weekends from Friday to Sunday, half of half term, 6 nights in the Christmas and Easter break and then two weeks with her dad and grandparents in August. This year, for the first time, it’s been split so she is spending the first week there and the last week until the day before her birthday. I miss her so much for those longer stretches but she has always come back happy so I have no reason to change the plan. I do feel as she gets older that time with her dad might be shorter but for now I’m glad she gets to spend time with all of her family throughout the year. For the first time in a long time this year she won’t be with me on Christmas Day either because I want to do something special for my 30th which is just before New Years even and she usually goes away from Boxing Day. It will be nice to celebrate my birthday with her but strange to be without her on Christmas.

    hostel room

    Ten Months of Hostel Living Taught Me A Lot

    Ten months of hostel living was not easy, especially at the start when childcare access was very rocky and my ex was still being aggressive towards me. Hostel living was hard, having to share a household with six other families on my floor. There were actually 21 families living in the hostel at the time. It was hard adjusting to life as a single parent and being on benefits, feeling like I hadn’t failed my daughter. Hostel living was hard because I had to live by so many rules and my mum still lived in the next village over.

    However ten months of hostel living taught me a lot about myself. It taught me that I am stronger than I thought I was. It taught me that I could still be a great mum as a single parent and that’s actually I was better for it. It brought me new friendships that I will always be so greatful to as they made life a little easier during our time in the crisis centre. When I was living in the hostel I also met Adam and now we’re living together and expecting a baby. Our relationship is really positive and really made me feel human again after so much stress in my life. I can’t quite believe it’s been six years since I started my hostel living journey and in that time I’ve worked part time, full time, been made redundant, got Evie into a good school and ditched employed work for running a self employed freelance and blog business. I’m really proud of how far I’ve come and I hope to anyone who might be living in a hostel right now or in a vulnerable place that this gives you a confidence boost and helps you to see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

  • Summer Infant Pregnancy Body Pillow Review

    A pregnancy body pillow is an absolute essential and has been one of the best things to have during this actual summer we have. I feel it’s typical that we are actually having a hot summer whilst I’m pregnant and it’s been pretty rough going getting to sleep at night however the Summer Infant Body Pillow has made getting comfortable in the evenings and getting to sleep so much easier. Im now 31 weeks pregnant and a deep and peaceful night sleep is a thing of the past for sure so I am doing as much as I can to stay relaxed, comfortable and supported during my pregnancy. Using this pillow with my lovely new bed sheets and Leesa mattress I am absolutely resting more and relaxing easily during this pregnancy than my first.

    There are loads of different shapes and sizes when it comes to pregnancy body pillows. Some take up a lot of room on the bed (much to a partners frustration I’m sure!) and you can kind of make do without one if you have lots of extra pillows however I personally find using a body pillow like the Summer Infant Pregnancy Body Pillow to be much more considerable.

    summer infant pregnancy body pillow

    Pregnancy Body Pillow is…

    So comfortable! It fits around my body really nicely, has a dip for the bump and support for between my legs. It’s lovely and soft, squishy and just like being wrapped up in a hug.

    Supportive! It supports my bump, hip and legs really nicely so that my weight isn’t putting too much strain on certain parts of my body. The pregnancy body pillow has allowed me to almost sleep on my front but mostly kept me on my left side. I do sometimes have to switch sides half way through the night but I don’t have to move the pregnancy body pillow.

    Multiuse! It will be great to use the pregnancy body pillow to help with feeding Baby F when he’s here so that he can get comfy and cosy with me. As he gets older he can use it for a supportive and comfortable seat although in the meantime I think I might still be making great use of it!

    Easy to wash and clean with a zip up removable cover – ideal for pregnancy and of course all the mess babies come with.

    I really don’t see any disadvantages to this pregnancy body pillow. It doesn’t take up as much room as some others might, is comfortable and provides a great amount of comfort and support which is ideal now especially as I’m in the third and final trimester of pregnancy. This pillow would be pretty easy to transport and would have been ideal to take with us on holiday at the start of the month however I’m so glad I have it now!

    If you’re currently expecting you can purchase a Summer Infant Pregnancy Body Pillow for £39.99 RRP and it’s absolutely a pregnancy essential and investment that you will be using throughout.

    Summer Infant Pregnancy Support Pillow showing you three ways to use the pillow during pregnancy and post natal
    Photo from: Summer Infant

    Disclaimer: I received a pregnancy body pillow in exchange for this blog post. All opinions remain my own. 

    For more pregnancy content please head to my hub post which contains links to all my relevant pregnancy based blog posts. My second High Bmi Pregnancy.

  • When Should You Allow Visitors After A New Baby?

    I don’t think there is every really the correct time to introduce your new baby to your family and friends but it’s something I am starting to think about a lot. When I had Evie I had a lot of visitors in hospital, more so when I got home and my ex inlaws actually turned up out of the blue one evening when she was around a week old to take her out for a walk. It was really overwhelming for me and has really got me quite stressed about people visiting when Baby F is born. It makes it tough because for Adam and his family it’s a first baby and whilst I appreciate everyone wants to meet and get to know him, no one is more excited about meeting him than I am. The one that’s felt his kicks from 16 weeks, that will be birthing him, hopefully as naturally as possible and will in those first few weeks be attempting to establish breastfeeding. With all those hormones and trying to develop our bond with our new baby we have decided that we want to limit family and friends visits in those first few weeks.

    My priority in those first few weeks will be getting Evie to and from school and feeding Baby F. That means my house will be a mess, I’ll be having midwives and health visitors and doctors appointments coming out of my ears, Adam will be starting University and Evangeline will be adjusting to life with a tired mum and a new baby brother. It’s a huge change for our family dynamic and I know that our time together is really important especially as Adam will only have his two weeks paternity leave. With all that new babies don’t actually like being passed around different people all the time and he is going to need to get used to our noises and smells and family life pretty quickly. Having too many visitors is just going to be way to overwhelming for us, let alone for a little baby.

    I think it’s really important to be clear with friends and family and ask them to respect your privacy and ask to come over rather than just popping in. I know we won’t really have a problem with this as people never just turn up to visit us anyway and I know our friends will wait until invited to come and meet Baby F. I know I feel really uncomfortable with the idea of anyone visiting me in hospital, especially if I end up with another c-section because it’s a big surgery to recover from. Evie is also the most important person and, after myself and Adam, she needs to be the first person to meet Baby F from our family. This of course will be really difficult if we do end up with a hospital birth as neither of us can drive so will have to rely on family or friends to take us home.

    I think it’s just important to remember that a new baby is exciting but to the parents it’s something they’ve been waiting for for a very long time. Privacy needs to be respected in these times and visits should be as long as it takes to drink a cuppa – and expect to make it yourself too!

    Lionel Snuggle Buddy Adorable Alpaca in Baby Crate

  • If Your Child is Going Back to School You Need These Tips!

    If Your Child is Going Back to School You Need These Tips!

    Back to School Tips for Parents

    Going back to school can be a daunting and nerve-wrecking time for many kids, but it can be just as worrisome and stress-inducing for their parents. The weeks leading up to September quickly become a rush of buying school uniform, securing name labels (find name tags here), competing last-minute homework and packing book bags. It can feel like you don’t have a minute to think!

    For those overwhelmed parents who don’t know where to start, we’ve put together a list of great back to school tips for parents to help you take at least some of the pain out of what will quickly become an annual nightmare

    back to school tips for parents

    Prepare Their Uniform

    If you’re buying new school uniform for the start of the school year then hit the shops early. This will give you more size options and styles to choose from, and hopefully help you avoid the crowds in the days leading up to the return to school. If you’re not buying new uniform then ensure your existing uniform is clean, ironed and free from stains.

    Secure name labels to every piece of school uniform (even their socks!). You’ll be amazed at what your children will lose at school, especially on those days when they are changing in and out of their PE kit. Naming each item is the best way of ensuring it eventually makes its way back to you, so you don’t have to buy everything all over again!

    Start a Family Calendar

    The start of the school term can be a particularly busy time with school trips, harvest festival and a myriad of extra-curricular activities all looming in your future. This can become difficult to keep track of, particularly if you have more than one child.

    The best way to ensure you don’t miss anything is to start a family calendar and use this to record everything. As well as the big events (such as class birthday parties and non-uniform days) add smaller but important details, such as the day of their next spelling test or when they should be handing in their homework. This will serve as a useful visual reminder for all of you. You should also ensure you make note of your own work shifts, hobbies and social events, so that you all have a clear idea of where everyone is supposed to be at all times. With the right family planner, you’ll never forget anything again!

    Organise Play Dates

    The summer holidays can be long and expensive. If you’re struggling to fill your days then why not try and organise play dates for your child with their new classmates? Not only is this fun and free entertainment for your child, it can be particularly helpful if your child is going to a new school or into a new class room and is feeling apprehensive about not knowing anybody on their first day.

    Organising play dates will help them to make new social connections, giving them a friendly face to talk to (or play with) on that first morning in the school playground. It should help boost their confidence about going to a new school or classroom and help to make the transition process much easier.

    back to school

    Establish a School Routine

    We all want our children to succeed and to hit the ground running when they step into the classroom, but 6 weeks of lazy days and late nights can quickly take their toll. Returning to school when the sun is shining, and when they’re exciting to see their classmates after such a long break, can mean they’re more interested in playing than in focusing on their lessons. You can help your child to hit the ground running for the new academic year by establishing a school routine early.

    Spend the last week of the school holidays re-establishing your child’s normal school day bedtime, and don’t let them sleep in in the morning. Wake them at the time they would need to get out of bed on a normal school day so their body clock resets and they aren’t shocked (and grumpy) on that first early morning school run.

    Put a white board in their bedroom that outlines what you expect of them each morning (such as get dressed, eat breakfast, pack your book bag) and allow them to take responsibility for this. They will quickly get into a routine of doing this for themselves, and will be more thoroughly engaged in school life when getting themselves ready on time is their own responsibility.

    Liven up Their Lunchboxes

    If your child is getting sick of eating the same old cheese sandwiches every day then why not use the summer holidays to think about ways that you can liven up their lunchboxes? Mix up the sandwiches by experimenting with wraps, pitta pockets and bagels, as well as boring brown bread. Replace those sugary and high fat snacks (such as crisps and chocolate) that will lead to an after-lunch sugar slump with healthier alternatives such as veggie sticks and yoghurts. And don’t forget to pack a large bottle of water: hydration is vital for promoting their memory and concentration skills. If your child is reluctant to drink water (many kids prefer sugary squash or fruit based drinks instead) then throw a couple of slices of lemon or lime into the bottle to liven it up a little.

    Don’t forget to prepare those lunchboxes the night before school, so that you have one less job to do when you’re rushing around on a busy school morning. Just grab them and go!

    lunchbox ideas, back to school

    Talk Things Through

    First day nerves are a normal part of the back to school transition, whether your child is transitioning to a new school or just to a new class. If your child is feeling apprehensive then it’s important to keep the lines of communication open between the two of you. Talk to them. Show you that you understand their apprehensions. Try to address their concerns. If you think it might help them then why not consider having a couple of trial runs of the journey to school? This will not only help you to work out how long the journey will take but it will also familiarise your child with the new school building. They may feel more comfortable with the process if they have this visual aid to support them.

    Why not tell your child about your first day at school, and some funny stories about your own school days. It may help them to know that you understand the process because you went through it yourself (and came out the other side).

    Prepare Yourself

    As well as preparing your child for the transition to school, it’s important to prepare yourself for the transition to being a school parent. Read all of the literature provided by the school, and make sure that you understand the school rules and the school ethos. Being on the same page as the school about rules and discipline will help you to give your child consistency. Ensure that the school have your correct contact details and email address: most schools will distribute their weekly newsletter to parents via email, so it’s important they have this so that you can stay involved with what is happening in the school.

    Now is also a good time to decide how involved you would like to be with the school. Do you plan on joining the PTA or will you have the availability to help out on school trips? Even if you don’t plan to be involved in the running of the school, it’s important to arrange your schedule so that you can be available for parent’s evenings, school plays, and other displays that may be important to your child. Research shows that children who’s parents play an active involvement in their school life and their education are much more likely to succeed in later life, so it’s important to think about how you can be involved and demonstrate this to your child.

    Take a Photo

    Finally, don’t forget to take a photo to capture your child’s first day back at school. This is a great idea no matter what school year they are going into: if you take a photo every year then you’ll quickly develop a photo record of their growth and process throughout their school career. Treasure these precious moments: you’ll be amazed at how quick your child will grow, and another school year will be over in no time!

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    This is a collaborative post.