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  • A Change in British Politics

    A Change in British Politics

    Like many, I have taken a real interest in British politics over the last few weeks. I have never thought of myself to be a person that is politically savvy. I’ve been old enough to vote in three general elections and the EU referendum although I’ve only ever voted in three of these occassions. I wrote a post about my feelings on Brexit last year as a remainer. I voted to remain and I accept the decision was not in my favour. I’m not hateful or bitter about the decision and all I can hope for now is a fair Brexit whenever that actually happens.

    I also made it pretty clear that I was voting Labour in the recent election. I have no problems sharing my voting choice or political position, in fact, if anything this election has really made me think a lot about who I am as a person, what my principles are and what I want to be known to stand for. I accept that as a Labour voter, we lost the general election. I know, I stayed up all night watching the results come in and I celebrated each Labour seat taken. I had predicted a hung parliament around a week or so before the election took place so I kind of knew what to expect.

    What I didn’t expect was a demand and supply agreement with the DUP and I am pretty sure most Conservative voters also didn’t vote for the result. I’ve also read a lot in the run up and aftermath of how, again, some voters are attacking those that voted differently, just like they did with Brexit. I am just sitting her quietly on a Sunday afternoon with my family, thinking about the future and the changes that might take place over the next few months positive that political reform is on the brink. We have cried out for a change in British politics over the last year. There have also been a lot of personal attacks from both sides of the fence which are unacceptable and inexcusable.

    1. Saying Labour Voters don’t work and scrounge of the system.
      I saw family members share this across my social media and it really angered me. Mainly because we are Labour voters and we earn a living. I have also rejected benefits because I think the system is flawed. My partner works full time, and I work from home for sometimes many more hours than I would in an office job. A particular meme that went along the lines of “Labour voters turnout will be high until 5pm when the Tory voters come out of work.” How dare you make that assumption. There are Labour voters in university, in apprenticeships, in paid employment with zero hour contracts and you have the audacity to generalise them as non working benefit scum? I know of many Conservative voters who are not in paid employment and voted Tory for their own reasons. That is completely fine, voting for your chosen party is a personal choice but these sweeping generalisations are not funny and are unfair.

      It goes along with saying Labour voters are just spending all the tax payers money and with the cuts the Tories have put in to out of work benefits, that simply isn’t true.

    2. The whole IRA terrorist sympathiser and therefore every Labour voter is a terrorist sympathiser too.
      Yep, I saw this one being passed around too a lot. Terrorism is inexcusable but the only person or group to blame, are the terrorists. The only thing politicians can do is attempt to keep peace. They can do this by funding the police. I have to admit, I’m a bit young to have felt the full force of what happened in Northern Ireland during the seventies and eighties. However, what really frustrates me is after all the smear campagin attempts through the tabloids (seriously, who reads these and believe them to be true?) which blasted this in people’s faces every single day and then we have a government formed with the DUP. I really don’t get it.

      3. This election is all about Brexit.
      No.
      Every single general election is about who will be prime minister and form a government for the next five years. The EU referendum was about Brexit, the snap election was about who will lead. It angers me when politicians assume the electorate are stupid and that is exactly what happened. Whilst I agree that a general election was unshakably the right thing to do, it was done for the wrong reasons. Part of me can’t help but feel a little sorry for Theresa May because I feel like she has a lot of bad eggs advising her on what she should be doing which has lead to so many U-Turn decisions. I want to celebrate a female Prime Minister but mostly, I want to celebrate the best person for the job and in this case I don’t think she was the right candidate. It frustrates me that she was a firm remain voter for Brexit and has decided that the public want a hard Brexit. We are a country divided right now and whilst the majority may have been with the Leave campaign, there were still a lot of people that voted remain. With such a small majority I don’t understand why that lead to the decision of a hard Brexit. Fair enough, good negotiations are needed with balanced, reasonable and functional arguments put forward. As far as I’m concerned there were just Leave or Remain on the EU ballot paper, not “And if so…would you like a hard or soft Brexit?”

      It makes leaving the EU sound like cooking an egg. Frankly, leaving the EU is a bit scrambled at the moment if you ask me.

    I don’t know what the future holds but I am confident we will see another general election before it’s time. However, I think we should celebrate a few wonderful things about the last eight weeks or so.

    1. Turnout was high. Some constituencies saw record numbers which is fantastic. However you vote, the fact that you turned up and had your say was amazing.
    2. Young people are getting interested in politics. I was so proud of the arguments both my sisters had for voting the way they did. I wish politics came into school at a younger age because we do live in a democracy and every voice is important. I hope this turns politics back into everyone’s game rather than the 35+ electorate.
    3. We finally found out the naughtiest thing Teresa May has ever done which has actually been a highlight for every single voter.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mvtHW95PXdg

     

  • Dear Undecided Voter

    Dear Undecided Voter

    Dear Undecided Voter,

    Our next general election takes place in one week, on Thursday 8th June. If you have registered to vote, you’ve probably received your polling card by now and you know where to go. Voting is not hard, complex or scary. It’s made simple for you. You may have voted before, you might not have. I am not going to tell you who you should vote for. It is a personal decision and its important you cast your vote on the things that mean the most to you. If you are thinking of voting opposite me, I will not tell you that you are wrong. We may disagree, and that is fine. But I would like to tell you the reasons why I intend to vote Labour.

    You see, I hear all these stories saying to vote tactically if you want the Conservatives out. I hear in my constituency I should vote for the Liberal Democrats. I live in a constituency that has, for all of time, been conservative lead. I live in an affluent area in the South East were the commute to London is easy (and expensive) and where house prices are high. But I can’t vote for a party that I don’t agree with which is why I can not vote for the Conservatives and I can not vote for the Liberal Democrats. Brexit has been voted on, I am not interested in negotiating with the EU and then having another vote to say whether those terms. I was a remain voter, I have accepted the result and feel we need to move forward with it now. If there was another vote, a vote on the terms, I just wouldn’t bother to go.

    But I will go to the polling station for our general election because this vote is not about Brexit. It is about who will govern our country for the next five years and no manifesto has ever made me feel so positive about the future. Brexit is, of course, going to be a part of it and I want it to be a Labour lead Brexit because I want to protect our human and workers rights. I do not understand the free tarriff becuase I am not in the manufacturing business but I appreciate this is an issue for some.

    Undecided Voter

    I will vote Labour because I know they will protect our NHS.
    I will vote Labour because free school meals should not be abolished for infant schools.
    I will vote Labour because I believe that nationalised services like rail and energy will save everyone money.
    I will vote Labour because my partner has been on minimum wage in his job for five years. He earns £7.50 an hour to support two other people. We do not receive any form of working or child tax credits (more because they are a pain to deal with) and because he deserves to get a living wage rate of pay.
    I will vote Labour so my partner can retrain if he needs to so that he can increase his wages without paying massive fees and landing us in even more debt.
    I will vote Labour because I feel inspired by Jeremy Corbyn. That may not be a popular opinion but I enjoy hearing him speak and how passionate and caring he comes across.
    I will vote Labour because zero hour contracts are an awful thing and should be banned.
    I will vote Labour because I think men should be allowed four weeks paternity pay. Two weeks off with your child is not enough time to adjust.
    I will vote Labour because I think 6 and 7 year olds are tested unnecessarily and that should be stopped. More pressure does not need to be on our teachers and infant school pupils who still care more about playing than phonetically spelling 40 words.

    All of these points, I genuinely believe will be better for everyone.

    With this last week left before we vote do your research. Read the manifestos, speak to people, ask why they are voting for who they are voting for. Get those conversations started. Think of the NHS, the strain on nurses and doctors, long waiting times, no beds…think of our Education service, all those school collections and fundraising days. Think of our future and the future you would like your children, grandchildren and great grandchildren to have.

    Please vote.

  • 5 Tips to Make Your Home Cosier

    This is a collaborative post.

    Everybody wants a home that looks and feels cozy. Above anything else, it makes you want to spend time in your home, especially when the weather is cooler. Instead of braving the chill, you can just curl up inside with your loved ones and have a night of pure relaxation. However, that cozy doesn’t just happen. You need to be taking care of a few details to make sure your home swoons with that warm feeling throughout. Here’s how.

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    Pick the Right Furniture

    It all begins with the furniture! You can take the coziest room in the world, but if it feels like you’re sitting on a bed of nails, then it doesn’t matter: you won’t be comfortable! Make sure you’re buying those pieces really allow to sink into the deep comforts of a relaxing home. If you don’t currently have those furniture pieces, then take a look online at second-hand websites. People are always upgrading their furniture, so finding a comfortable piece shouldn’t be a problem.

    Bring the Warmth

    One of the most important things that determine the coziness of a place isn’t even seen; it’s just felt. Having a warm house goes beyond just cranking the heating. You need to make sure that the home is well insulated so that heat can’t escape, and isn’t drafty and letting the cold are in. Everywhere in your home can be warm. Keep your bathroom warm with a towel radiator; it’ll also make getting in and out of the shower all the more enjoyable. If possible, look at adding a real fire to your living room. They’re the ultimate symbol of winter comfort.

    Rugs and Carpets

    There are some arguments to be had for having wooden floors, but when it comes to being cozy, everyone knows that carpets are the true winner. Invest in the right kind, and you’ll have your own warm cloud to walk on when the weather is chilly. If you do have wooden floors, then look at a carpet. They’re warm and can help bring a room together. They’re also easy to add or take away, as the mood fits.

    Get the Lighting Right

    A harsh light never helped anyone. To make your home cozy, you need to think about the lighting you’ll have in each room. Knowing a few lighting tricks can make it simple to take a room from cold and gray, to warm and cozy. Each room is different of course, so take a look at the best ways to light individual rooms. Darker, more atmospheric lighting is the best, especially in living rooms.

    Add Fuzzy Animals

    When all else fails, you always have fuzzy animals to fall back on. Adding a cat or dog to a home instantly makes it homier, especially in the winter time. Of course, you don’t want to buy a pet just because it’ll make your home feel more relaxing; but if you were looking for an excuse to get one anyway, then this might be the right solution!

  • Does Slimming World Online Actually Work?

    Does Slimming World Online Actually Work?

    Slimming World Diet Plan Online: My journey and experience and why I no longer believe in slimming clubs.

    Slimming World Online is an option a lot of people who want to lose weight head to if they haven’t got the time to attend a group in person. I used to be an advocate for this but it’s been a long time since I’ve been a Slimming World member and over time, therapy, NLP, reflection and conversation with other body positive, health advocates and dieticians I have become quite anti diet culture. I am no longer an advocate for Slimming World online and you can read more about that at the bottom of this post. However, I have seen this be successfull and at the time I did lose some weight when I started. I do not recommend this for those that struggle with their relationship with food or those that have previously overcome eating disorders. Instead I would recommend a kind counsellor or therapist that works with individuals who struggle with food.

    In this post I explain what Slimming World Online is, how it can help, the basics of slimming world and my experience back in 2017. Three years on I’ve had another child and I am working hard on staying active, being kind to myself and building a happy, healthy relationship with food.

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    What is Slimming World Online?

    Slimming World Online is basically a membership option for those that, for whatever reason, work, childcare, living out in the middle of nowhere or just because they don’t want to go to a Slimming World group. Joining Slimming World online is easy and you can access it through the main website. There is also a slimming world app. I started Slimming World online in April 2017. You can read about my first six weeks below. 

    A variety of bread toppings with cream cheese.
    Slimming World meals might add a bit of variety to your lunches

    How does Slimming World Online Work?

    Slimming World online works by you registering with a package and then continuing after three months with a monthly direct debit of around £20. You can set your fitness goals, track weight loss and keep an online food diary. Slimming World becomes free when you become a target member. A slimming world target member is someone that has reached their target weight.

    Slimming World online works the same was as a slimming world group does although it is without the help of a consultant and group so it can feel quite lonely. See my top tips below on how to stay focused and have slimming world success.

    A female body sat on a green bench with a bottle of water close by holding a white bowl of salad and meat
    It is important to eat a range of colours, drink plenty of water and try to be as active as you can

    Which Slimming World Online Option is the best?

    You should choose the one that is within your budget. All of the options give you access to everything you need. I personally signed up with the Slimming World online gold package as that provided me with extra literature which has been very useful and the Slimming World magazine subscription.

    Top Tips for Slimming World Online Success

    1. Can you do it with a friend? When you have support and you’re doing it with someone else you will stay focused and you won’t want to let them down. Even better, find a few of you that want to do it, set up a group chat so you can stay in contact with each other.
    2. Stock your fridge and cupboards with free foods for when you need a snack and try to turn to fruit or vegetables first.
    3. If you can’t subscribe to the magazine I recommend getting a copy. It always has loads of food ideas, meal plans and snacks to ensure you eat well.
    4. Keep a food diary. You can do this online through Slimming World or you can set up your own journal.
    5. Create a weigh day and weigh in at the same time each week. Get yourself a decent set of scales and perhaps a tape measure if you want to keep track of any  particular areas.
    6. Take photos each time you weigh in and add them to a side by side collage to help you start seeing a difference. It might take a while but it will be worth it and it will keep you motivated.
    7. A slow cooker can really help to prepare healthy meals for the whole family and a great time saver too
    How To Have Success With Slimming World Online
    3 Steps to slimming world success

    Can you still lose weight with Slimming World Online?

    One thing people often ask is how can you lose weight with slimming world when you eat so much? This is the area I have an issue with as there is no science backed evidence about how syns work. Why is one mashed or smoothied banana synned but a whole one isn’t when the calorie density stays the same. For some who want to lose weight though, the easy answer is yes, you can still lose weight with Slimming World online however sometimes you might find it hard to stay motivated without the group atmosphere. Find others that are looking to eat healthy meals or join groups on Facebook to help you with your personal goals. Make sure you have plenty of variety to your meals and try new recipes. There are some fantastic slimming friendly focused recipe books available online.

    Weight loss results of course are subject to the effort you can put in, following the plan and being dedicated to your weight loss. Sometimes you will lose big amounts, sometimes small and sometimes you will maintain. You may even gain a small amount and then lose it the next week. Your weight will fluctuate so it’s important to track it on a weekly basis and just keep pushing through. However, you might find more success if you start thinking about why you’re eating, eating more slowly, speaking to a nutritional therapist who can help you control any eating disorders such as disordered eating and find a way to move that brings you joy.

    A caeser salad with croutons, cheese, tomatoes and lettuce.
    Mix things up with your meals and find food you love eating

    My Story with Slimming World Online

    I joined Slimming World with my partner Adam at the end of April 2017. It’s been six weeks now since we’ve started our weight loss journey together with two other friends. We have all lost weight in these six weeks. To date I have lost 1 stone 2lbs and Adam has lost 9lbs. We’re both really proud of having a good loss so far. Adam has a lot less weight to lose than I do so it’s coming off a bit slower for him, and as you get closer to your target it may be slower for you too.

    I have had weeks where I haven’t been totally on plan or we’ve had birthdays. We’ve had weekends away, meals out and days where we just don’t want to work out or walk anywhere. Everyone has days like that. However, we have both made healthier choices, we have worked out more and we have, ultimately, really enjoyed the success we have had with slimming world online.

    Why is Slimming World Bad – My Thoughts & Update – October 2019

    Whilst I no longer use or agree with Slimming World I know that it has had some great success for many people. Over time this post has been visited a lot and people have found it helpful. At the time I completely stood by everything said in this post and I have seen first hand individuals lose and maintain a healthy lifestyle. That being said I do not believe Slimming World is intended for people with disordered eating which over time, counselling and reflection is something I have. I am currently trying to change my habits and my relationship with food in a different way which steps away from diet culture.

    This image is for Pinterest. It shows a vaiety of cakes with different toppings. Text on top of the images states 'did I maintain my weight loss with slimming world'
    I have not maintained any weight loss from Slimming World at all. I am bigger but much happier in my self and changing my relationship with food.

    I have not maintained any weight loss and I am currently at my heaviest at a size 24/26 and whilst I do want to change my body, I am giving it a lot more respect. I’ve decided to focus on strength, adding colour, being active and not tracking calories. I find when I’m not obsessed with counting syns I am a lot more relaxed about what I eat so instead I am tracking how full I am after a meal, in the morning and certain times of the month. I am focusing on fueling my body with nutrition and strength training instead of removing food groups from my diet. I no longer feel diets are the way I want to live my life.

    Thinking of Joining Slimming World after Lockdown?

    Personally I do not recommend this especially with the stance that I feel slimming world because this is still a very strange time for so many people. If you want to improve your health then I recommend reading health at every size, finding a good online talking counsellor or therapist that specialises in this area, dealing with emotional eating and joyous movement. There are excellent exercise videos on youtube if you want to give them a go or just getting out in nature for a walk every day can do wonders for your mood.

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  • Why I Don’t Believe in MLM Anymore

    Why I Don’t Believe in MLM Anymore

    I’ve wanted to write this MLM based opinion post for some time now but I’ve been a bit wary. People will take offence to my opinion, particularly as I’ve been in that industry, and that’s fine. I feel like it’s important to write though, and I feel there should always be two sides to every story. I also feel like I want this to be an honest and open place. I want people to be informed and I think that means you have to read the positive and the negative surrounding an issue. I also feel like by not publishing this I’m lying to my audience and my readers. I don’t have faith in the MLM industry, and I want to share my reasons why. I’m not the only one that feels like this either. There is a really interesting Netflix documentary Betting on Zero and I recommend reading Forever You HerbalScents by Whinge Whinge Wine and the very informative article on Talented Ladies Business Club: Thinking of joining an MLM? The Motherload also share their views on why they feel its a Cult for Mums. My point is your choice is your choice but you need to make an informed decision and that comes with knowing all the facts, including the negative.

    A few years ago I was walking through town with my nine month baby and approached by an Avon lady asking if I’d like to sign up. I hadn’t earned my own money for over a year due to starting University and then getting pregnant at 20. I was in a bit of a rut, vulnerable, and the lady was quite nice so I signed up. Looking back now, it didn’t work. It was never going to work because I am very lazy. I handed out a few brochures to family and friends, I had a few calls, I recruited a few team members and got a few bonuses and then it all just fizzled out and I couldn’t be bothered with it. Since then I’ve realised I’m a much better Avon customer than I am seller.

    So I tried something new. I became and Ann Summers Party Planner. I actually did really well with that in sales. I recruited a few team members, I got a lot of incentives and I met a lot of really fun people. Actually, joining Ann Summers really made me reflect on the life I was living at home. I was seeing all these fun loving women who worked, had happy and healthy relationships with friends and family. Their partners weren’t aggressive, toxic to be around and hard to live with. I do believe things happen for a reason and it was while I was working as a party planner that I left my toxic relationship and moved back home close to my family. I became a single mum, lived far away and I couldn’t really continue what I was doing as a party planner living in a hostel. But I did make money there and I did have fun.

    To this day I don’t really have an issue with party plan companies because the focus is on parties and selling rather than recruiting. I also like these businesses that have a retail outlet, it gives you more options, a choice where to buy and it just seems more stable. No, I don’t think that’s hypocritical of me, every business has competition and sometimes a retail store is a really good competitor. I am all for giving consumers as much of a choice as possible.

    Fast forward to 2014, I was working full time but I was going to be made redundant and wasn’t really sure what to do. I kept seeing all these ads everywhere for a Clean 9 weightloss system – and yes, in those days, it was totally advertised as weight loss. I was sucked right into it all because I was worried about losing my job. I was vulnerable again…do you see a bit of a pattern here? Anyway, I signed up with promises of holidays, financial freedom, amazing incentives just for selling Aloe based products.

    Products that are expensive. Products that gave me and my lifestyle absolutely no benefit. Products that were a really hard sell. This didn’t give me financial freedom, it lead me getting into more debt which was the opposite of what I actually wanted. Instead of financial freedom I had bills to pay, I was alienating friends, I was getting abusive messages and I was losing people. People didn’t want to spend time with me because they didn’t want me to try and sell them stuff. I am also an awful seller. I can’t persevere, I can’t follow up and I can’t really recommend things that I don’t truly believe in. I should have stopped there but instead I tried other companies, with no success. Small sales, no team members and no money.

    There are a lot of people I know that make a lot of money in multi level marketing but I can’t help feeling some of that is through exploitation. Telling mums that they shouldn’t feel guilty anymore because they’re not at home with the kids. Those mums might not want to be stay at home mums, they might not want to work around their babies, they might not have a problem with the 9-5, they might not want to be their own boss. These days more people are looking for ways to boost their income but I personally can’t recommend MLM as a great way to do this.

    Firstly, I think to sell well you need a lot of friends with disposable income or that already buy high end products. Secondly, you need to be comfortable with pretty much telling lies to vulnerable people. I know this, because I have had to try and do this. It doesn’t make me proud of this industry, it just makes me very wary. The people at the top, I just don’t really trust them and they don’t have time for the people at the bottom that are struggling. It isn’t a easy way to earn money but it can be a really easy way to piss people off.

    I’m not interested in the comments that say “well you didn’t try very hard, everyone starts at the same place and can get the same success.” I did everything I was told to. I Pm’d you hun, I sent stupid messages to old school friends with a script, I worked on my mindset, I read all the networking books, I got myself out and about, I showcased a lifestyle (a massive lie of a lifestyle back then) and I tried to arrange online and home based parties.

    These days, I’ll happily say I am with The Body Shop at Home because I want a personal discount and I’m happy to share catalogues with family and friends because guess what? They already buy there. I’m not interested in making people sign up. I’m not interested in earning money through MLM aggressive prospecting because I don’t feel that sits right with my principles. I don’t feel MLM business practice is ethical. Sure, I might sell a product here and there for a bit of commission, but I do that on my blog with affiliate marketing anyway. The difference is, my income doesn’t depend on you buying things from this website. Sure it’s nice and yes, I would love to earn more affiliate commissions but I don’t have to pressure or bully anyone into it these days.

    To clarify, I do have some friends who are network marketers and they have become really good friends. They don’t make me feel alienated, they are supportive and welcoming people, they treat their business, customers, team members and prospects with respect. They don’t use bullying tactics to make you sign up, aggressively try to recruit you and they are successful people. I think that is brilliant, and I will celebrate their achievements with them. But MLM will never be something I seek out again.

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